Dinesh: My thoughts about why divorce rates are increasing:
• Tolerance levels within the marriage are going down. • Economic independence has added additional confidence in both the partners. • The statistics would probably show the fact that partners are no longer putting up with bad-marriages. It probably has removed a façade, which the Indian system used to shield. • I would still vote for a divorce rather than a bad marriage. • Partners are no longer ready to accept bad relationships. • In many cases, the commitment to continue with a relationship despite odds has withered away. • The effect of globalization and better infrastructure and security has emboldened people to take the extreme step to call of the marriage, which was providing a sense of false-security.
Our values and the sense of commitment have become fragile. People have lost the quality of adjustment with the surroundings. The institution of marriage has fallen weak.
I would still stay, a "bad marriage" is worse than "happily divorced". To put it conversely, people opt for a divorce to find (atleast hope to find) happiness, when they are sure that there is no happiness in the marriage.
Indians by nature are more tolerant. Their value system is deep rooted, Commitment towards the family is very strong. Moreover Indian families are children centric and that is the reason why probably the divorce rates are much less than the west.
Yes Family structure plays a major role in it. Here we are very much bonded with the family and answerable to family and society if anything goes wrong ... And also they would be there to advice us . though we can ake a decision which can be respected by all ... yet we feel we are bonded ot only with girl or a boy but with whole family and this makes us to think over the issue again...
Indians are moralistic, value the family more. So the question of divorce does not enter their mind that easily. Even when the situation is unbearable they resist divorce and seek other alternatives such as staying away from each other or living separately in the same house. 1.The reason is they are worried about hurting parents as most of the times they would have spent all their money, sometime even the property to get their daughters married. 2.Also they are worried about something called as family respect/morality. 3. They are more worried about how it will affect children than for themselves. 4. Also most of the times if the lady is house wife not earning then she does not think of divorcing as she does not have financial freedom.
So just because they are not divorced it does not mean that they are living happily with each other. On the other hand we can see the divorce rates are as good or more than US in the couples who are in software!
Well we as Indians have some sort of "Values" in us that have been integrated as a part of us, no matter how independent a woman is . We have a sense of responsibility to our family which makes it rreally hard to let go of it. This keeps it going. IF not for us we would stick on for the others
Dinesh: My thoughts about why divorce rates are increasing:
ReplyDelete• Tolerance levels within the marriage are going down.
• Economic independence has added additional confidence in both the partners.
• The statistics would probably show the fact that partners are no longer putting up with bad-marriages. It probably has removed a façade, which the Indian system used to shield.
• I would still vote for a divorce rather than a bad marriage.
• Partners are no longer ready to accept bad relationships.
• In many cases, the commitment to continue with a relationship despite odds has withered away.
• The effect of globalization and better infrastructure and security has emboldened people to take the extreme step to call of the marriage, which was providing a sense of false-security.
Strong & Acceptable by the society norms. Still some portion of system is in place.
ReplyDeleteOur values and the sense of commitment have become fragile.
ReplyDeletePeople have lost the quality of adjustment with the surroundings.
The institution of marriage has fallen weak.
I would still stay, a "bad marriage" is worse than "happily divorced". To put it conversely, people opt for a divorce to find (atleast hope to find) happiness, when they are sure that there is no happiness in the marriage.
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Indians by nature are more tolerant. Their value system is deep rooted, Commitment towards the family is very strong. Moreover Indian families are children centric and that is the reason why probably the divorce rates are much less than the west.
ReplyDeleteYes Family structure plays a major role in it. Here we are very much bonded with the family and answerable to family and society if anything goes wrong ... And also they would be there to advice us . though we can ake a decision which can be respected by all ... yet we feel we are bonded ot only with girl or a boy but with whole family and this makes us to think over the issue again...
ReplyDeleteIndians are moralistic, value the family more. So the question of divorce does not enter their mind that easily. Even when the situation is unbearable they resist divorce and seek other alternatives such as staying away from each other or living separately in the same house. 1.The reason is they are worried about hurting parents as most of the times they would have spent all their money, sometime even the property to get their daughters married.
ReplyDelete2.Also they are worried about something called as family respect/morality.
3. They are more worried about how it will affect children than for themselves.
4. Also most of the times if the lady is house wife not earning then she does not think of divorcing as she does not have financial freedom.
So just because they are not divorced it does not mean that they are living happily with each other. On the other hand we can see the divorce rates are as good or more than US in the couples who are in software!
Well we as Indians have some sort of "Values" in us that have been integrated as a part of us, no matter how independent a woman is . We have a sense of responsibility to our family which makes it rreally hard to let go of it. This keeps it going. IF not for us we would stick on for the others
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