DCS Group Assignment "D" due on 24th Oct.

Dear all,
You are aware that "Mental Health" is a very mis understood field. Prepare and if possible execute a small campaign to create awareness of what is good mental health, and how it can be preserved. You can aim it to children, employees, general public, housewives, anyone. It can be in the form of posters, pamphlets, street play , exercises etc...

Looking at the due date it requires a quck action and brainstorming. Let all of us meet on Sunday the 18th at 11 in RV centre. Your valuble comments are welcome....
Suneetha

Group Assignment 3 - Submitted to Ali

Hi All,

Ali wanted a consolidated report and hence I have consolidated and sent the report as follows: Please note, I had to edit the comments and collect them, group them and to the best of my knowledge, I have done that. As usual, your comments are welcome:

Thanks,
Dinesh

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A wife finds out that:
1. Her husband has been arrested on the charge of murdering an unknown child.
2. Her husband has had an extra-marital affair.
What would be a typical reaction in the first case, and what would be a typical reaction in the second case?
Why the difference?

Consolidated Answers:

Reaction Case 1:
• Shock, denial, disbelief and scared.
• Plays a role of protector, defends the husband.

Reaction Case 2:
• Betrayed, cheated and depressed.
• Jealousy, shame, shock and anger.
• Walk out of the marriage.
• Shattered, unloved, unwanted and deep sense of frustration.
• Victimized, helpless and hateful of husband.

Why the difference?

• The first case, even though the husband has made a mistake, the wife tends to forgive him and accept him, as the crime is directed against someone else. He still belongs to the wife. However, in the second case, the wife considers herself the victim and looses all the sympathy she has for the husband.

• She may also believe that her husband would never commit such a crime and hence the support in the first case. Where as, in the second case, the wife could easily show intense reactions, as she immediately feels cheated.

• In case 1, the relationship between husband and wife is stronger than the “stranger”, hence she supports. Where as in the second case, the very relationship is in question, hence she feels victimized.

• Both the cases concern her husband in the first case she know her husband well and will not suspect him of committing a crime. In the second case in spite of doing her best he has betrayed her.

• In first case she did not loose her hope & still believed and thought it may be or may not be his fault. In second case she totally got some kind of aversion towards him; she lost a sense of belonging.

Emptiness (Blankness) - Emal

Posting on behalf of Emal:

Emptiness (Blankness)


In life’s journey as I was growing up had this feeling of loneliness & left out all most every day. Now since have got a very loving and caring life partner its been quite a few months this feeling of loneliness is not wondering around me. But after marriage or in my life 1st time I experienced emptiness when my husband travelled 3 days on official visit last weekend. Am generally very bold person I did not fear that I have to stay all alone for 3 full night @ home. Weekends in the day I was completely busy with class and institutional visits, so that was ok. I step in to home to see I was not welcomed with a smile or hug, No arms where I can rest in peace. No eager ears waiting to listen my DCS class stories, I thought for myself “Except the reality” that some one is not there today. All was fine went back to sleep cause I was very tired, read book for some time than i was fast asleep. It continued the other day whole day I was busy the next day I woke up got ready left home. I boarded a bus and was thinking. From yesterday there has been no action / reaction in me. No smile no enthu I was just like a robot where, I woke up, got freshened, get ready, had my coffee, lock the door, run for my destiny. Life was so empty for complete 3 days. Surprising!! Discovered something new J

Note: Thought Of Emptiness (What I Discovered)

Peace
Emal

Format for submitting the reports on institution visits

Hi

Does anyone know whats the format for submitting institutional visit reports.

Who is Martyn Singh

MARTYN Singh, please identify yourself. Sorry to be so rude, but I do not seem to recall you in RV2 batch. However, you have been very active. If you are using a PSEUDONYM, please enlighten us.

DUDE, it is important we meet you - :D

Thanks,
dinesh

Group Assignment 3

Assignment Question:

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A wife finds out that:

1. Her husband has been arrested on the charge of murdering an unknown child.
2. Her husband has had an extra-marital affair.

What would be a typical reaction in the first case, and what would be a typical reaction in the second case?
Why the difference?

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Please comment in the following format, so that it is easier to consolidate:

Reaction - Case 1:

Reaction - Case 2:

Why the difference:

Musings!!

From my childhood I always loved to talk to someone, because I loved meeting new people.
"Never met a stranger ," some say but I have this uncanny ability to get to know others
quickly and easily. My smile is the one which can draw any stranger to me as a known one
within no time.
As I grew up I felt I did whatever was very close to my heart . I believed in cherishing
things which were very important to me : faith, family, relationships.
Withstood the loss of the loved one believing in life.
Today I am living my dream and want the same for others.
The message I convey is, when individuals recognize their god given uniqueness and live
accordingly lfe takes on new purpose and meaning. Personal satisfaction abounds.Teams
function more effectively and organisations grow and prosper!

A thought by Emal

"Was sitting in the corner bench of the park
looking at huge grown trees, different types of trees
Was feeling as tho am in some hill station
was feeling world (Bangalore) is so calm, peaceful and adorable
when i looked up it was like all branches / leaves of trees were like shamiana
there we birds chirping, flying high with out barrier (cage)
some dogs were sleepy and yawning, some were active
some were playing and some were have a nice evening walk
without belt around its neck
There were lot of people walking around, Some very serious
Some on phone, some were pushing themselves to jog
Few couples who were completely dwell in there own world
Sat there for an hours time and just experienced the silence
Finally i felt "Life is so beautiful, Calm and Peaceful"

Note: We have negative and positive around us choice ours what we choose to communicate or experience. I choose / experienced calm sweet misty breeze and peacefulness.

Peace
Emal.

Group Assignment Q9

Question 9: What is the significance of communication in the bonding of family members, and how can communication be improved?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q8

Question 8: Is concept of family relevant at all in future, or will it have to be completely overhauled?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q7

Question 7: How does behavior (role-modelling) of parents affect long term behavior of their children?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q6

Question 6: What are the 3 most important factors that make a happy and harmonious family?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q5

Question 5: How do the needs of today’s child differ from children of the twentieth century?

Please comment:

Group Assignment Q4

Question 4: Will a single child grow up to be different from a child with brothers or sisters?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q3

Question 3: Divorce rate in India is about one-tenth of what it is in the USA. What does it tell us about our family structure?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q2

Question 2: How has the role of the housewife changed as the anchor of the family in the last one or two generations ?

Please comment.

Group Assignment Q1

Question 1: In the modern world, is it better to have a small nuclear family than a large joint family?

Please comment, so that each comment can be consolidated easily:

HELP NEEDED

Hey Guys

This is Chatrik. I m really @ wits end as I havent even finished one visit of the stipulated 6 required. I will be really happy if anyone can get in touch with me and include me in their visits as my team have already finished 2 and I have to start from scratch

Team leaders

Sookta,Emal,Shruti and Kapila: I hope u guys can help me out

Thanks

practical visit 2

Hi everyone... This is about the next practical visit we are planning.

Shekhar has taken appointments from the contact person in samarthanam (at 2pm) and sneha sadan (at 3.30pm) this tuesday the 1st of september...

And he'll confirm about the appointment with nightingales and victoria hospital tomorrow... He is trying to cover as many institutions possible in one day...

As far as i know, a group (of 10-15 members) is allowed on that day... So i request the group leaders to co-ordinate with their group members and shekhar.

Regards,

Sooktha

Please Note

Team,

I have been adding posts like the Classes Schedule, Assignments - Individual, Group Assignments etc, as a ready-reckoner / reminder for all of us. Especially me, who is lazy to remember all the details.

You should be aware of the following:

• Individual assignments are personal and hence please do not share them on the blog.
• Since Group assignments are for the group, we can all share our thoughts on the blog more easily than multiple emails circulating. I believe it will be hard for the co-ordinator to consolidate all the thoughts if they are in separate mails. Hence blog is a nice place where we can find all thoughts/comments at the same place.
• Blog is on the Internet space and hence Please do not DISCLOSE your personal details such as Credit-card numbers, Mobile numbers, Email addresses etc. Since it is available for all to see, some malicious person can misuse this information. Such personal details can be shared on mails.
• That said, any other feelings, thoughts, comments are welcome. The more we update information, the better it can get. Probably, I can organize the notes etc in a better way going forward.

Feel free to disagree and comment :)

~dinesh

Group Assignment 2

Group Assignment 2 (only one answer to be submitted per batch)

1. In the modern world, is it better to have a small nuclear family than a large joint family?

2. How has the role of the housewife changed as the anchor of the family in the last one or two generations?

3. Divorce rate in India is about one-tenth of what it is in the USA. What does it tell us about our family structure?

4. Will a single child grow up to be different from a child with brothers or sisters?

5. How do the needs of today’s child differ from children of the twentieth century?

6. What are the 3 most important factors that make a happy and harmonious family?

7. How does behavior (role-modelling) of parents affect long term behavior of their children?

8. Is concept of family relevant at all in future, or will it have to be completely overhauled?

9. What is the significance of communication in the bonding of family members, and how can communication be improved?

Please do nominate a Group leader for this assignment.

~dinesh

Assignment 2 (Individual)

DCS-10:: Assignment 2 Last Date: 12^th Sep 09

Make a list, in descending order of importance, of 5 qualities that help to build a good relationship, and another list, again in descending order of importance, of 5 qualities that destroy a relationship. You can give one or two line explanation of each quality if you wish

~dinesh

Visits to Institutions

Hi All,

Just wanted to let you all my thoughts about the group assignment to visit institutions.

1. Firstly, Suneetha started off with the discussion thread.

2. We can probably set off as groups and visit places which are near to your vicinity.

3. Time seems to be the constraints as we are meeting next on August 29th, and the coming weekend is busier with 2 back-to-back classes of 4 hours each..!

I just wanted to ask everybody to comment on the blog and let us organize into groups, in order to complete this assignment.

Please comment.

Thanks,

dinesh

After the Sunday 11 AM meeting at RV Road, Kapila took the lead for grouping people. Here is the group structure

Group 1	Group 2	Group 3	Group 4
Dinesh	Kapila[L}	Preethi	Emal[L]
Suneetha	Sekar	Priya	Deepa
Sooktha[L}	Smitha	Soni	Bhuvana
Bindu	Shridar	Shruthi[L]	Bhavani
Tejaswini	Viswanath	Reena	Florence
Veena suresh	Savithri	Poornima	Chatrik
Rekha	Veena	Sasi	Ratnamala
Prajwal	Aditya

Thanks,

dinesh

Aug-Sep Schedule

Here is the schedule for Aug-Sep:

Date	Day	Time	Topic	Staff
29-Aug-2009	Sat	3 pm – 7 pm	Self-awareness, Managing Emotions	Raja
30-Aug-2009	Sun	10:00 am – 1:15 pm	Relationships - Family	Ali
05-Sep-2009	Sat	2:30 pm – 5:30 pm	?? Combo class	??
06-Sep-2009	Sun	10:30 am – 12:30 pm	A feel of counseling	Raja
12-Sep-2009	Sat	4 pm – 7 pm	Marriage 1 & 2 :)	Ali
13-Sep-2009	Sun	10:30 am – 12:30 pm	Children ??	Uma Madan
19-Sep-2009	Sat	4:30 pm – 6:30 pm	Adolescence	Meera
20-Sep-2009	Sun	10:30 am – 12:30 pm	??	??

It was foolish on the part of the doctor to put the blame on somebody else. As a doctor there is some kind of respect that is given to the individual and it is entirely upto him to maintain the bandwith of this respect and see to that it does not tilt towards the lower side where the respect will be lost. Simply rephrashing the same sentence would have made all the difference

Chatrik

Article posted on behalf of Emal

Washington, DC Metro Station . On a cold January morning in 2007.

The man with a violin played 6 Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx. 2,000 people
went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.
4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.
10 minutes:
A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent,
without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.

45 minutes:
The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

60 minutes:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition. No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats
averaged $100. This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about Perception, Taste and People's Priorities.

The Questions raised:
In a common place environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it?
Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible Conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made..........................
How many other things are we missing?

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Feelings.. Friend who lost his father

The Story:

A friend of mine woke up with a very uneasy feeling in the middle of the night. For quite some time, he could not go to sleep. Some creeping fear made him think about his elderly father who was sleeping in the bedroom below. Though there was no apparent need for concern, he went down to check.

His father seemed to be sleeping peacefully. He went up ….. and again came down. This time he called out to his father, then shook him silently. His father was not responding. He then noticed that his father is gasping for breath. He ran out like a mad man and woke up a neighbor down the street-the only one among his friends who had a car. Together they somehow lifted his very heavy father and took him to their family physician’s nursing home. The duty doctor there saw the elderly gentleman in intense trauma and suggested that he be to a bigger hospital.

When they reached the casualty of the big hospital, the patient was rushed into the ICU. A few minutes of suspense appeared like an eternity to my friend. Finally the doctor came out and quietly said, “He is no more.” My friend was shocked beyond belief. He blurted out, “ How can it be? What happened? ” The doctor, not wanting to waste any further time remarked, “By the time you brought him in, it was already too”, and walked away

It has been more than one year since that traumatic night. My friend still wakes up in the middle of the night with the Doctor’s words ringing in his ears. “By the time YOU brought him in…..” The entire responsibility dumped on the son . A son who loved his father more than his own life. He now lives a miserable life every now then brooding on how he could have brought in his father earlier.

Write in just one or two sentences what thoughts go in your mind when read the about true story.

DCS RV2 Batch

Hey Everybody,

Lets start blogging

Dinesh